Eph. 4:30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.
Do you know what it means for someone to hurt your feelings? Maybe they raised their voice at you or said something you felt was disrespectful or maybe inappropriate words or jokes were shared. Then comes the kicker, “Don’t be so sensitive” they say; after they realize your feelings were smashed. Actually, being sensitive, is a positive trait not a negative one. The Bible teaches us that the Holy Spirit is sensitive. It is a good thing if coarse jesting, profanity, or harsh words hurt your feelings, they hurt the Holy Spirit’s feelings. Recently, R.T. Kendall spoke in our church about the sensitivity of the Spirit. He emphasized just how easily the Spirit is offended, or as Paul said, grieved. Since that teaching was given I have heard several people from the church being cautious of their words concerned about the possibility of grieving the Holy Spirit. Charles Spurgeon also cautions about grieving the Spirit in this commentary on today’s verse.
“O child of God, thou hast no life within thee apart from the life which God gives thee through His Spirit! Then let us not grieve Him or provoke Him to anger by our sin. Let us not quench Him in one of His faintest motions in our soul; let us foster every suggestion, and be ready to obey every prompting. If the Holy Spirit be indeed so mighty, let us attempt nothing without Him; let us begin no project, and carry on no enterprise, and conclude no transaction, without imploring His blessing. Let us do Him the due homage of feeling our entire weakness apart from Him, and then depending alone upon Him, having this for our prayer, “Open Thou my heart and my whole being to Thine incoming, and uphold me with Thy free Spirit when I shall have received that Spirit in my inward parts.”
If we really need the Holy Spirit to help us in all of our activities, if we really are totally dependent upon Him in all we do, we should be especially cautious about the possibility of grieving Him. Being insensitive with our words, our actions and thoughts can easily offend God. Don’t get me wrong, I am not talking about becoming unsaved because of grieving the Spirit: I’m just saying you may have to ‘go it alone’ without His help.